Month: April 2015

Discover Your Own Attractiveness

My 5 year old niece got so excited the other day because someone super important to her was coming to visit her at her house. She dramatically announced that she wasn’t dressed for the occasion! She ran to her room and minutes later appeared in her new found beauty with a new outfit on and hair like she wanted it. In the excitement she started singing a song (which she often does. She seems to narrate her life out loud in song form), “First I was ugly and out was out…now I am pretty and in is in!!!”

As only a 5 year old can, she narrated how we judge ourselves so often. Male or female we all do it. It is amazing that we make it that simple. Only a five year old has the courage or innocence to just blurt it out, but we all sometimes inwardly believe it at times. Is it really that easy that, depending on how we feel about ourselves in that moment, we can be inadequate one minute and amazing the next; only seconds lies between being on the bottom and then on top of the world.

The truth lies in what we know about ourselves and how familiar we really are with our authentic self and our version of attractiveness.

Attractiveness is much deeper than our outfit or status. It is not external, it is internal. As my niece so profoundly stated, “in is in.”  Our personal attractiveness lies inside of us—our strengths and character traits.

For example, if I were to define my personal attractiveness it would be “nice.” I love being nice (I have moments, I promise, that look different, but my intention is to always be nice). Is nice ever not attractive? So you see our true attractiveness is based on our inner strengths. They never go away.

At Human Art we have four types of personalities or designs. Below are some traits that correlate with each one. Today find a few you relate to and hold on to them. Like magic you will feel “in is in” and on top of the world. If you find yourself in an “out is out” moment, hold on to those traits, or go back and find a few more that you relate to. See how it works. You will find you will quickly start appreciating your own personal design—your personal attractiveness and authentic self.

SATURATED
Precise
Clear thinker
Contemporary
In control
Quiet dignity
Still
Authoritative
Simple

WHITENED
Fun
Enrolling
Safe
Spontaneous
Fresh
Childlike

GRAYED
Soothing
Calm
Elegant
Meticulous
Connector
Refined

BLACKENED
Real
Warm
Task-oriented
Compartmentalizer
Sturdy
Exotic
Natural

Remember: your worth has already been defined. It is not negotiable. You just need to discover it in yourself. Everyone is a masterpiece.

 

We Are ALL Human Art

As I walk through a museum of fine art, I enter each room anticipating the beauty I know I’ll encounter there. I feel a tingle of excitement. Which piece of art will I love? Which will I appreciate? Will I see some that I won’t understand? As I’m strolling by each piece, I realize that the great thing about art is that it’s a personal experience. People choose the pieces that speak to them on an emotional level. I wonder what piece, in each room I enter, will speak to me. When I find it, I know the lines and color of the piece will communicate what I need emotionally. My response will resonate deep inside me.

For some reason we have forgotten to look at each human being in this same way. People are masterpieces that we come upon or experience in life as if we are entering their space in a museum. They touch us on an emotional level. The lines and colors in their bodies—their unique compositions—communicate to us. Have we forgotten to look at them with the same open eyes that we have when we pass through the doors of an art museum? Do we feel the anticipation of finding that connection deep inside in response to each person’s own beauty? Or have we learned in some way to pass by and discount them in a search for that ultimate personification of “beauty”—as if all humans were pieces in an exhibit, but only one truly great piece of art existed? We need to open our eyes to see the art and beauty in every human being. We are each truly unique, a masterpiece. We are all imprints of many frequencies, and we leave that emotional imprint of our beauty wherever we go. No one will every experience anything just like us again.

When I see someone new, perhaps I’ll love and appreciate her beauty. Or maybe I just won’t understand it. I am not alone. Most of us don’t understand the beauty we find in others. We don’t recognize the masterpieces we encounter each day. We lack the information, skills or rules to interpret them. We don’t know their “equations”. Just as solving math or chemistry problems is impossible without understanding the rules, in art—especially Human Art—we as a society have reached a point of discounting what we can’t comprehend merely because we lack the tools and rules to do so.

I love walking through the “exhibit” of life! I relish observing this beautiful world and these intriguing pieces of art—humans—that I encounter daily. Using the “rules,” or the science of color and line, I am able to grasp people’s beauty in a way that extends far beyond the physical surface. My experience of your beauty starts the moment I first get a glimpse of you. Your communication, the lines in your nose, the way you walk, the way you talk, the way you process your information, are all pieces of the equation, and I start summing them up, emotionally. Without fail, each time I say, “Yes, this is the piece for me!” You touch me at that level because, unlike a painting or a piece of pottery, you are alive, and you use your “equation”—your beauty, talents and strengths—to act and interact with me. I’ve yet to find the sculpture that can do that.

Understanding the right rules and using the right tools to unlock the mystery of human composition has enabled me to stand back in reverential, open-mouthed awe as I contemplate the greatest beauty of all: you.

-Brook