My 5 year old niece got so excited the other day because someone super important to her was coming to visit her at her house. She dramatically announced that she wasn’t dressed for the occasion! She ran to her room and minutes later appeared in her new found beauty with a new outfit on and hair like she wanted it. In the excitement she started singing a song (which she often does. She seems to narrate her life out loud in song form), “First I was ugly and out was out…now I am pretty and in is in!!!”
As only a 5 year old can, she narrated how we judge ourselves so often. Male or female we all do it. It is amazing that we make it that simple. Only a five year old has the courage or innocence to just blurt it out, but we all sometimes inwardly believe it at times. Is it really that easy that, depending on how we feel about ourselves in that moment, we can be inadequate one minute and amazing the next; only seconds lies between being on the bottom and then on top of the world.
The truth lies in what we know about ourselves and how familiar we really are with our authentic self and our version of attractiveness.
Attractiveness is much deeper than our outfit or status. It is not external, it is internal. As my niece so profoundly stated, “in is in.” Our personal attractiveness lies inside of us—our strengths and character traits.
For example, if I were to define my personal attractiveness it would be “nice.” I love being nice (I have moments, I promise, that look different, but my intention is to always be nice). Is nice ever not attractive? So you see our true attractiveness is based on our inner strengths. They never go away.
At Human Art we have four types of personalities or designs. Below are some traits that correlate with each one. Today find a few you relate to and hold on to them. Like magic you will feel “in is in” and on top of the world. If you find yourself in an “out is out” moment, hold on to those traits, or go back and find a few more that you relate to. See how it works. You will find you will quickly start appreciating your own personal design—your personal attractiveness and authentic self.
SATURATED
Precise
Clear thinker
Contemporary
In control
Quiet dignity
Still
Authoritative
Simple
WHITENED
Fun
Enrolling
Safe
Spontaneous
Fresh
Childlike
GRAYED
Soothing
Calm
Elegant
Meticulous
Connector
Refined
BLACKENED
Real
Warm
Task-oriented
Compartmentalizer
Sturdy
Exotic
Natural
Remember: your worth has already been defined. It is not negotiable. You just need to discover it in yourself. Everyone is a masterpiece.