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The Pursuit of Perfection: Performing to Belong vs. Being Human, part 4

When we are focused on getting our worth in the pursuit of perfection, we tend to measure how we are doing through tasks. Some measure how intense the task is to accomplish and then see their worth as a direct correlation to the intensity of that task. Others might measure their worth in the number of tasks they can accomplish in a short amount of time. Yet others can see themselves as superior because of the projection of perfection that these tasks could offer (bragging rights). More importantly, they run the risk of using others (those that do not use tasks to define themselves) as a springboard to showcase and elevate their projection of perfection—elevating themselves and criticizing others that cannot keep up with them.

In the healthy way of navigating, one see’s life’s tasks as something that keep us secure, not what defines us. The effort that we put into our tasks is the character that we build. Piece by piece, those characteristics become our value, then that value becomes our identity. The best part of this process is that you can make mistakes, in fact you will make mistakes, and it does nothing to take away from your effort. We just get up every day and try harder at being human. We do a little better each day than the day before; picking up character and identity along the way.

Tasks are a very important component of those who are high in the Blackened design. It creates meaning in their life. It is the very thing that drives them. If they plug perfection as an expectation to their tasks, it can get intense quickly. Intense for both the Blackened person and those who are around them. The expectations or rules that they put on the task is now the driving force and boy does it drive. It can be abrupt and forceful because fear is the fuel. If it looks like any imperfections might collide with their expectation, then you get strong emotion from the Blackened person and you feel a lot of force in the room. It gets people working, but not in a learning and thriving way, it’s in a pressured way. The task gets done but not as good as it could have with healthy collaboration, and it leaves the Blackened person disappointed and frustrated.

If the tasks get set up in a healthy, “being human” way of navigating life, then effort is the focus. When a Blackened person is managing that effort in a warm, real, and genuine way, then learning can’t help but be the consequence. Healthy Blackened people tend to create a casual and comfortable environment where everyone who experiences this culture is comfortable. They cannot help but put their best efforts forward. The healthy Blackened person is there with the warmth that only they have, and they use this warmth to blaze the trail for even more learning and more experiencing. If this continues day after day then everyone involved finds themselves open to adventure and thriving. That form of thriving and growth now becomes routine and creates stability. Because of that stability, adventure can be experienced at a higher level.

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So, if you have Blackened in your design (we all have some), pick the” being human” way of going through life. Use tasks in a healthy way. The Blackened part of our design or personality is the “get ‘er done” part or the fixer. Move forward being human and in the moment, taking in everything that is happening around us. Don’t limit our view. Open it up and expand it. The more we take in, the more we can experience life in a healthy way. Get up every day with a commitment to fix, teach, enjoy, experience, and make each conversation or interaction with another human an adventure. You are the design that keeps it real and keeps us on track so make sure it is a healthy human kind of track. Persuade in real and casual calm ways and enjoy each and every moment. And always remember that everyone is a masterpiece.

Brook

 

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