Category: Attract Connect Prosper

Do I Have to be a C.E.O. or Own a Business to Feel Like I Can Prosper?

Posted on by Brook Thornley

We have been focusing a lot on “attract, connect, prosper” the last little while. We talk a lot about the Attract section of organizing anything that has to do with a persons attractiveness or their authentic self. We also weave in the next phase which is Connect. It is a way to organize any content or request that has to do with relationships and connecting with others. Today, I would like to shine a light on Prosper.

Prosper is the phase that comes after the first two and the magic of this phase is when you navigate attract and connect properly then the prosperity and abundance just come naturally. It is the byproduct of knowing who you are and then connecting to others in a healthy way. What I have found in conversations is that it is sometimes misunderstood. Some think that you only apply this phase of Prosper if you are a business owner. In fact it is another question that is asked a lot…”DO I HAVE TO BE A CEO OR OWN A BUSINESS TO  FEEL LIKE I CAN PROSPER?” I will answer that question by asking a question. Is business the only category that you would like to prosper in or feel a sense of abundance?

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It is true that we talk a lot about it at Human Art as it pertains to business. We are swamped with “Customer Service by Design” classes, team building and even have had a large interest and more than usual amount of requests in the corporate family reunion retreat. We are grateful for that, but that is just a piece of Prosper. Even in those forums we teach that if you are truly prospering in an authentic way than the abundance should manifest across the board. I, for example, am a CEO; but I am also a mom, a friend, and a member of an amazing community that I love. My success and ability to prosper would be a bit of a manufactured version of prosperity if it only showed up at work. If it is truly authentic prosperity the integrity of it, and the principles and values that I pull from my design and use in my interactions, will show up across the board. That’s how I double check. I do an inventory and see if I’m the same person everywhere. I see if what I say and do–who I am–show up in a way so authentic that what I say and what I do seem to always line up no matter what situation I am in.

To be confident that you are prospering in relationships you go to that space where we jump from the connect phase and into the prosper phase. While leaping from connect to prosper take a second to look down at the view. That is, the people you are connecting with. Do those relationships seem to have an ease of abundance and prosperity? If so then you are on your way. If they seem fragile and brittle, as if the smallest of thing can break them, then perhaps its time to go back to step one, the Attract phase, and start again. Keep cycling until you feel the Prosper.

So whether you are a business owner, mother, father, sibling, a outdoors person, a teacher, a friend, civic leader etc. that great feeling that you are prospering in your life should be the same everywhere if it is done in your design, with your authenticity, and in a way that connects with healthy relationships.

Most importantly, always remember everyone is a masterpiece.

-Brook

Put it on a Shelf: See Things from the Other Perspective

Posted on by Brook Thornley

“It’s so hard to talk to someone and really try to understand their perspective without running it through the filter of my own design,” someone said to me. In fact, I have heard this several times this week from clients at Human Art. I hear it often. I think this is one of the greatest challenges when trying to collaborate with someone. Our own thought process works so well for us as individuals it is easy to think that is how others should think too.

I believe that each of us puts forth our best effort when we are trying to understand another perspective, we just too often try to take their point of view while still having one foot planted firmly in our own way of thinking. It tends to feel like quite an emotional tug. It’s as if we are saying, “I really want to see your view but I’m still looking through my lens.”

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The best way to collaborate is to completely put your view on the shelf while you are trying to see someone else’s view. When I say put your view on the shelf, I mean completely; with all of your opinions, emotions and the type of thinking that you do with your design. For example, if you are Saturated and you are talking to someone really Grayed. Try and think of it as if you were that Grayed person. As if you were very detail-oriented instead if your usual focus of being precise. It’s role playing at its best.

I remember when I was younger learning how to do personality profiles. I would concentrate on literally putting my design aside as if I was putting it on a shelf for later, and imagining the experience form the other person’s design. It didn’t come easily at first, I had to practice this; but with time it just became automatic.

What if we all practiced this? With our families, with people at work, in our communities. How many times a week do you find yourself saying, “What were they thinking?” Well how about going one step further and answering that. Answering from their point of view or design, not our own.

So I declare it (with absolutely no authority to do so, just one single human) National “Put it on a Shelf Week!!!”  Try it for 7 days. Notice how relationships start to change. Use your discovery and curiosity. Remember, everyone is a masterpiece.

Brook

Organize Yourself-Attract, Connect, Prosper

Posted on by Brook Thornley

At Human Art: The Original Personality Test we get a lot of requests daily. They range from someone just needing to know something about their design (for example, “is this article my design?”), or something about their thought process, to someone ordering a class, a family reunion or a major corporate event. Needless to say, we are busy and we love it. We have three categories we put our requests or jobs under: Attract, Connect, and Prosper.

Attract is for personal growth. Knowing your design or authenticity and anything that can aid in discovering that. This is where individual consultations come in. It really has to do with your relationship with yourself.

Connect is, once you know yourself, how to better connect with others from that place of authenticity. This is a powerful category because it launches you into your life and connecting in a healthy way with others.

Prosper is how do you put that to use to find and bring more success in your life and in your everyday tasks. I think of this as working smarter, not harder, at what you do.

This is a great way to organize our message when we are serving our clients, but it is not JUST a great way for us to organize Human Art. It could be an amazing tool for YOU to organize each day. Every morning think to yourself: “Attract, Connect, Prosper.”

First, you want to do what you can to feel Attractive in your authenticity. My parents used to teach us to “get up and take whatever time you need to feel attractive in your authenticity.” It is an expression to the world of who you are. So whether it be a pair of jeans you love to show your casualness, or a whimsical pony tail to show your lightness, or even a stark beautiful suit to show your authority or simply a sweater or cologne to express your refinement, take that time. Look in the mirror a final time with approval for yourself and then turn and forget yourselves and go serve.

This leads me to Connect. The important part of connecting is two-fold. One, stay in your authenticity, but Two, always celebrate the differences of the person you are connecting with. Bask in the opposite energy that seems to live in you and those you connect with. When done in a positive way without labels it leads to amazing amounts of synergy. Instead of using the difference as a reason to lose credibility in those you deal with, us it as a starting point of negotiation. You will find great solutions in negotiating that way.

Once you can negotiate in that form it leads you right into more opportunities to Prosper. Prosper means finding your strengths authentically and using those in every task you have on your list, and doing them in your way. I find it works every time.

For example, the task might be to come up with a great new solution to a problem. A Saturated person will always find success when they deem their version of quality on the task and then go to work in a concomitant way with that one most important thing. A Whitened person will always keep in mind how everyone is interacting to find optimal social success. A party is truly a party when everyone is having a good time and they won’t settle until they do.  A Grayed person is brilliant in the details. Sometimes after an event I ask to just look at their lists that they made during the planning stages. It is a beautiful thing to see the number of details they cover and the meticulous nature in which they did. It is really like viewing a piece of art. Lastly, a Blackened person will just “get ‘r done.”  It’s as if they are moving forward before the orders are even finished being put in. They just start rolling. They are like small human versions of great big bulldozers and trackers and trucks and fleets…I could go on. You get the point. When a Blackened person walks on the job site you know things are going to get done. I appreciate that so much in a task. It brings stability to an event.

So wherever you are stop and think: “Attract, Connect, Prosper” and move forward in that way each day.

And remember, everyone is a masterpiece.

-Brook

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