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Why Shouldn’t I Focus on Just My Predominant Design?

A question was asked at Human Art this week that gets asked quite frequently: “What is the benefit of knowing all aspects of my design? Why can’t I pay attention to my predominant design only?”

The answer is not a simple straightforward one, it is one that, in my experience, elicits a great discussion. But we will give you a simple answer today.

You always have the right, in your autonomy or independence, to focus on your predominant design—the one that you are the strongest in. In fact, we have had clients over the years that have done just that, and at the time it worked for them. In that place and time that was exactly what they needed. However, they did come back later to explore more of the influences of the lesser (but just as important) designs and found that their influence on the predominant design was way more important and impactful than they were acknowledging or taking advantage of.

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The second option would be to immediately embrace all four of the designs and pay attention to the order and amount of them you have. The higher they are in your personality, the more they will influence your first, or predominant, design. For example, we have been working with a client whose design is Saturated first. It is so strong that more than half of her equation as a whole is Saturated. She is equally Blackened and Grayed next and then there is a small amount of Whitened at the end. She finds herself looking for clear answers and then moves to focus on that clarity in her work to become more successful in her respected career. That was once enough for her, but after she came to Human Art she learned that her Blackened and Grayed is the part that actually allows her to dig in to tasks once she prioritizes them and then she is meticulous with combing through what she might have missed at the end. She learned that her small amount of Whitened is the spontaneous part of her personality that wants to play or celebrate once a project finds its way to a successful and quality outcome. She expressed that she was just focusing on her Saturated abilities before consulting with us and she had ignored her instinct to use the strengths of her other three design influences. She left excited to move forward with all parts of her design and put into place her own system to success through her design.

The point of all of this is to answer that first question, “What is the benefit of knowing all aspects of my design?” At Human Art we give you the order and amounts of your design. If we have not done your profile*, you can still instinctively navigate your design. The important thing is, on is on your journey to find success I believe that using all aspects of your design to meet goals and challenges will launch you to higher amounts of success than just using your predominant one, which is just a portion of your whole design.

I believe you are worth it, and remember, everyone is a masterpiece.

Brook

 

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Healthy Collaboration by Design

At Human Art we like to spend time on the skill of learning how to collaborate in healthy ways. There are a handful of tools that can lead to this very thing; but having the discipline to stay in it is a little harder to navigate.

In our quick fix and instant information world (that can be a blessing and a curse), we sometimes let that discipline slip and we move to something else that will lead to immediate soothing, rather than relying on the good old-fashioned hard work of staying in a conversation with another human until we get to a healthy place with each other.

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To add to the sometimes slow pace of working on healthy collaborations, each design has a different way they prefer to collaborate. In other words, what seems healthy to one person might not be preferred to the other person in a conversation. It would do us all good to slow down and take into consideration each design and what is important to their form of communications.

You will notice that if you are not paying attention to the thought process and design preference of the other person or persons that you engage with in a collaboration, the exchanges become more and more frustrating and less and less productive as the conversation goes on. If you notice some “can be’s” showing up, you will know that you have gotten off track.

Here is a simple guide to recognize if we’re off track:

⇒When talking to a predominantly Saturated person and they suddenly appear distant or aloof…you have most likely gotten off track.

⇒ When talking to a predominantly Grayed person and they suddenly appear avoidant…you have most likely gotten off track.

⇒ When talking to a predominantly Whitened person and they suddenly appear random or obnoxious… again, you’re probably off track.

⇒ When talking to a predominantly Blackened person and they suddenly appear overly sarcastic and sometimes even mocking…probably off track.

As you go through the next few weeks, make an effort to bring healthy collaborations back into your social interactions. Look for signs that the conversation could be off track and move to curiosity and deeper understanding of the person or persons you are communication with (and ideally, they are doing the same for you).

It will be worth your while—you’re worth it and so are your relationships. And remember, everyone is a masterpiece.

-Brook

For more about the topic of working to understand the other person’s design, read our related posts below!

 

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“What Am I Best At?” Understanding Your Central Focus

A client recently asked me,” With my design, what am I the best at?”

Usually I get asked that in a different way. For example, “what job would I be the best at?” or, “what kind of spouse will I be?” When this client asked me so simply, “what am I good at?” I realized we ask ourselves that a lot. My answer is: you are best at being you. You are the master of that because you already know the rules.  We get in trouble when we look externally for the answer to that question or for our worth (that means we are comparing ourselves to someone else). If you find yourself doing that, you will fail. If you stay with your “great” or your “best” self you already know how to do that innately so you will have success.

It’s like ballet dancers in a dance class. Each dancer eventually becomes a graceful and talented dancer; they all just do it in their own way. As young dancers in class one might be very organized in her training with lots of lists to help her practice. Another girl might use her imagination to visualize the dream of being a prima ballerina to drive her to practice. Yet another is social and just can’t wait to get to class each time to see her friends. Years later you can find each one of them under the lights somewhere receiving cheers and a big bouquet of beautiful flowers. So the question should not be “what am I the best at?” the right question is, “how best do I tackle being something great?” (No matter what that “something” is).

 

It all boils down to your Central Focus.
Your central focus describes what is important to you to accomplish and in what way for any event or task.

 

If you are SATURATED……….. The central focus is quality. Whatever you deem to be quality is at the center of everything you do.

If you are WHITENED………. Your central focus is social and change. You need a lot of both things to stay involved in what you are doing.

If you are GRAYED………….  The details are so important. They become your central focus and you feel lost without them.

If you are BLACKENED………… You are the “get ‘er done” type of person. Just fix it!

The Door Fell Off
We often use the analogy of the door to help you figure it out. If you were in a room somewhere and the front door just suddenly fell off, what would your reaction be?

All the Saturated people would stand up and announce, “the door just fell off,” and would immediately take charge and start delegating.

All of the Whitened people would jump up and say, “Wow the door just fell off!” and call all their friends and tell them to come (and bring cupcakes) to see that the door fell off. (In other words, turn it into an opportunity to socialize and have fun).

The Grayed people would start processing the details. Something like, “the door fell off and it is late. We need to get something done about it because it’s almost dark, and oh yeah it might rain. I wonder if there is something wrong with the hinges…” and so on.

Finally, all the Blackened people would just get up and put the door back on.

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Remember that we all have all four types of personality in us, so we may relate to each in some way. But we lead out with our dominant one and that is where we find our central focus.

The next time you are thinking of what you are best at, stay true to your authentic self, no matter what it is you are doing. That is what they really mean when people say “just be you.”

And always remember, no matter what you choose to do everyone is a masterpiece.

~Brook

Discover Your Own Attractiveness

My 5 year old niece got so excited the other day because someone super important to her was coming to visit her at her house. She dramatically announced that she wasn’t dressed for the occasion! She ran to her room and minutes later appeared in her new found beauty with a new outfit on and hair like she wanted it. In the excitement she started singing a song (which she often does. She seems to narrate her life out loud in song form), “First I was ugly and out was out…now I am pretty and in is in!!!”

As only a 5 year old can, she narrated how we judge ourselves so often. Male or female we all do it. It is amazing that we make it that simple. Only a five year old has the courage or innocence to just blurt it out, but we all sometimes inwardly believe it at times. Is it really that easy that, depending on how we feel about ourselves in that moment, we can be inadequate one minute and amazing the next; only seconds lies between being on the bottom and then on top of the world.

The truth lies in what we know about ourselves and how familiar we really are with our authentic self and our version of attractiveness.

Attractiveness is much deeper than our outfit or status. It is not external, it is internal. As my niece so profoundly stated, “in is in.”  Our personal attractiveness lies inside of us—our strengths and character traits.

For example, if I were to define my personal attractiveness it would be “nice.” I love being nice (I have moments, I promise, that look different, but my intention is to always be nice). Is nice ever not attractive? So you see our true attractiveness is based on our inner strengths. They never go away.

At Human Art we have four types of personalities or designs. Below are some traits that correlate with each one. Today find a few you relate to and hold on to them. Like magic you will feel “in is in” and on top of the world. If you find yourself in an “out is out” moment, hold on to those traits, or go back and find a few more that you relate to. See how it works. You will find you will quickly start appreciating your own personal design—your personal attractiveness and authentic self.

SATURATED
Precise
Clear thinker
Contemporary
In control
Quiet dignity
Still
Authoritative
Simple

WHITENED
Fun
Enrolling
Safe
Spontaneous
Fresh
Childlike

GRAYED
Soothing
Calm
Elegant
Meticulous
Connector
Refined

BLACKENED
Real
Warm
Task-oriented
Compartmentalizer
Sturdy
Exotic
Natural

Remember: your worth has already been defined. It is not negotiable. You just need to discover it in yourself. Everyone is a masterpiece.